Shedding the Spikes

[nyyki]

I've been thinking a lot, and I've come to the realization that spiky is not a good word for me.

Spiky implies a porcupine, a cactus, or a punker's hair. There is a sharpness implied that has the potential to hurt if you get too close.

That really is not my vibe. I'm flexible to an extent, but very much unyielding past a certain point. (This thing called boundaries -- if you haven't tried them, give em a shot -- they beat walls hands down.)

I really don't have a label for it. But who needs labels anyway?

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[minirth.livejournal.com]

*I'm* a porcupine.

As much as I bitch about people being afraid of me, or intimidated by me, and as much as I don't understand *why* the pitiful fools are afraid of me -- I like it. I like it a lot.

[nyyki.livejournal.com]

Thing is, I am neither afraid nor intimidated. My ex was porcupine totem. And the one time you two met, the ex expressed a fondness for your perspective and outlook.

As far as I can tell, people can't handle you because you make them feel insecure. They don't understand your perspective and motivations, and your gestalt also reminds them of parts of themselves they don't know how to deal with.

Of course, having them afraid of you means that they give you control over some of their power. Plus, it keeps them from getting too close, which seems to key into some of your "lone wolf" leanings.