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nyykiI was in a conversation with a friend last night, and the topic came up about what standards she's setting for her next partner.
It wasn't until recently that I'd even consider getting romantically involved again -- my record for choosing lovers is abysmal, as I always choose someone who isn't right for me. This has grown toxic to a high degree in my last few relationships, and the last one involved a massive recovery time thanks to some abusive behavior and my stupid willingness to let some of my standards go to make my partner happy. (How very Pisces of me...)
So, in light of that, I've had to think long and hard to find what I want in a relationship. My criteria are:
* Must be a multi-millionaire
* Must be able to fly under no external mechanisms, simply with the power of thought
* Must be immortal and able to grant immortality to others
* Must be able to conquer tyrannical regimes single-handed.
* Must be able to cure world poverty and hunger.
No, seriously, try these:
* Must be self-sufficient financially
* Must have own residence that is a stable place structurally and financially
* Must be free of any personality, mood, stress, and psychotic disorders, diagnosed or not, medicated or not. Any other disorders must be medicated and the person must take meds as directed by a physician consistently and on schedule.
* Must be communicative and honest.
* Must be accepting of me and my situation.
* Must be bisexual
* Non-smoker
* No live at home kids
* Must like dogs and not insist on cats.
* must be independent but still capable of loving someone else and caring for someone else when things get tough.
* No rebounds
* Must be open to diversity, with no racial, gender, religious, or national prejudices.
* Doesn't have to be a musician, but has to like music in diversity.
* Must be able to let me do things on my own at times.
I think these are reasonable requirements. I'd also like someone who wants to pursue me instead of me having to do all the chasing, and someone who could do the occasional romantic gesture would also be nice. I know there are folks out there who view a romantic relationship as something other than a path to pain and self destruction, and it's going to take someone who can prove that to me before I'm going to get comfortable with having someone that close ever again, because those positive relationships are completely foreign to my experience, and I can't fathom how someone could stay married for ten years, much less 25 or 50.
And yes, the first list would be nice too. Just sayin'...
It wasn't until recently that I'd even consider getting romantically involved again -- my record for choosing lovers is abysmal, as I always choose someone who isn't right for me. This has grown toxic to a high degree in my last few relationships, and the last one involved a massive recovery time thanks to some abusive behavior and my stupid willingness to let some of my standards go to make my partner happy. (How very Pisces of me...)
So, in light of that, I've had to think long and hard to find what I want in a relationship. My criteria are:
* Must be a multi-millionaire
* Must be able to fly under no external mechanisms, simply with the power of thought
* Must be immortal and able to grant immortality to others
* Must be able to conquer tyrannical regimes single-handed.
* Must be able to cure world poverty and hunger.
No, seriously, try these:
* Must be self-sufficient financially
* Must have own residence that is a stable place structurally and financially
* Must be free of any personality, mood, stress, and psychotic disorders, diagnosed or not, medicated or not. Any other disorders must be medicated and the person must take meds as directed by a physician consistently and on schedule.
* Must be communicative and honest.
* Must be accepting of me and my situation.
* Must be bisexual
* Non-smoker
* No live at home kids
* Must like dogs and not insist on cats.
* must be independent but still capable of loving someone else and caring for someone else when things get tough.
* No rebounds
* Must be open to diversity, with no racial, gender, religious, or national prejudices.
* Doesn't have to be a musician, but has to like music in diversity.
* Must be able to let me do things on my own at times.
I think these are reasonable requirements. I'd also like someone who wants to pursue me instead of me having to do all the chasing, and someone who could do the occasional romantic gesture would also be nice. I know there are folks out there who view a romantic relationship as something other than a path to pain and self destruction, and it's going to take someone who can prove that to me before I'm going to get comfortable with having someone that close ever again, because those positive relationships are completely foreign to my experience, and I can't fathom how someone could stay married for ten years, much less 25 or 50.
And yes, the first list would be nice too. Just sayin'...
