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Lazy Sunday: Time to wax philosophical....
There is a saying: "There is no truth, only perception." There is a lot of sense to that.
Let's look at Laurie and Dagda and Minirth for a moment. Laurie has a very specific perception of Dagda. (It is said Love is blind. There are so many ways this is true...) Minirth has a differing perception of Dagda. Which one is correct?
Probably neither is 100% accurate. So in essence, there are at least 3 Dagdas -- Lauries, Min's, and the Dagda that Dagda perceives.
Can anyone know the core truth of another? I sometimes wonder.
Moving forward with this, people have perceptions of themselves that are often pretty far off the mark, thanks to perspective, self delusion, intelligence level, and fear of facing the truth about themselves. This is why 00Ho can see herself as simply a polyamourous bisexual ethical slut, while many others see her as skank. (I find myself leaning toward the latter feeling, simply because of my prior interactions with poly-bi females, my values, etc. Doesn't make it true, of course.) I know a man who is similar. He claims to be poly, but only if he is the only man in the picture -- his girlfriends can date other women, but he has to be the only male they sleep with. Since his viewpoint is so heavily focused on what tabs fit into what slots, my personal feeling is that he is more a swinger than a poly. (And a control freak as well.)
In dealing with others, and their perceptions of people, I tend to deal with their perceptions of people, not mine. Min has a strong picture of Dagda in her mind. So, in interacting on her journal, I use that model in referring to him. After all, I have not walked in her shoes, so I do not know what she has experienced, and it serves no purpose to simply argue with her about the differences we see in him, not to mention that doing so on her journal is rude. And taking into account that we cannot know what Laurie sees in him, or what he sees in himself, it is pretty pointless to foist my reality tunnel on someone else anyway, as chances are, I am most decidedly wrong about a large part of it.
A friend of mine once turned me on to the dual concepts of a person's position in relation to others. I think it was Charles Foote who said, "If a million people believe in a dumb idea, it's still a dumb idea." And we counter this with the thought that "if you are the only one seeing things differently than everyone else, who has the highest possibility of being wrong?"
A lot of the current drama in my life and around me has gotten me to thinking about the masks we wear. I've seen a lot of this going on. And in many cases it is a healthy thing. Min uses her Min journal for "Bitchy Asides and Commentary." This one mask she wears -- Not in the derogatory sense of mask, mind you, but in the sense that this is an outlet for a specific aspect of herself. Her Lynxfeather journal is another side of her, hence, another mask.
This journal is a mask for me -- I let my acerbic, misanthropic side out. And of course, that tends to be hyperbolic, somewhat intense, and.... well, somewhat bitchy. It is a side I don't get to let out much, and sometimes ya just gotta vent. (And if you're reading my journal and I'm writing harshly about someone you know or someone you are, just understand that I don't hate anyone. And if something I say is striking a chord, you might want to look at yourself and ask why this stinks -- stuff we know to be untrue about ourselves is easy to dismiss, while the stuff with a grain of truth is much harder to flush away.)
I'd like to continue, but to quote David Lee Roth, "I'd like to talk more Philosophy, but I gotta go pee. That Philosophy goes right through ya..."
There is a saying: "There is no truth, only perception." There is a lot of sense to that.
Let's look at Laurie and Dagda and Minirth for a moment. Laurie has a very specific perception of Dagda. (It is said Love is blind. There are so many ways this is true...) Minirth has a differing perception of Dagda. Which one is correct?
Probably neither is 100% accurate. So in essence, there are at least 3 Dagdas -- Lauries, Min's, and the Dagda that Dagda perceives.
Can anyone know the core truth of another? I sometimes wonder.
Moving forward with this, people have perceptions of themselves that are often pretty far off the mark, thanks to perspective, self delusion, intelligence level, and fear of facing the truth about themselves. This is why 00Ho can see herself as simply a polyamourous bisexual ethical slut, while many others see her as skank. (I find myself leaning toward the latter feeling, simply because of my prior interactions with poly-bi females, my values, etc. Doesn't make it true, of course.) I know a man who is similar. He claims to be poly, but only if he is the only man in the picture -- his girlfriends can date other women, but he has to be the only male they sleep with. Since his viewpoint is so heavily focused on what tabs fit into what slots, my personal feeling is that he is more a swinger than a poly. (And a control freak as well.)
In dealing with others, and their perceptions of people, I tend to deal with their perceptions of people, not mine. Min has a strong picture of Dagda in her mind. So, in interacting on her journal, I use that model in referring to him. After all, I have not walked in her shoes, so I do not know what she has experienced, and it serves no purpose to simply argue with her about the differences we see in him, not to mention that doing so on her journal is rude. And taking into account that we cannot know what Laurie sees in him, or what he sees in himself, it is pretty pointless to foist my reality tunnel on someone else anyway, as chances are, I am most decidedly wrong about a large part of it.
A friend of mine once turned me on to the dual concepts of a person's position in relation to others. I think it was Charles Foote who said, "If a million people believe in a dumb idea, it's still a dumb idea." And we counter this with the thought that "if you are the only one seeing things differently than everyone else, who has the highest possibility of being wrong?"
A lot of the current drama in my life and around me has gotten me to thinking about the masks we wear. I've seen a lot of this going on. And in many cases it is a healthy thing. Min uses her Min journal for "Bitchy Asides and Commentary." This one mask she wears -- Not in the derogatory sense of mask, mind you, but in the sense that this is an outlet for a specific aspect of herself. Her Lynxfeather journal is another side of her, hence, another mask.
This journal is a mask for me -- I let my acerbic, misanthropic side out. And of course, that tends to be hyperbolic, somewhat intense, and.... well, somewhat bitchy. It is a side I don't get to let out much, and sometimes ya just gotta vent. (And if you're reading my journal and I'm writing harshly about someone you know or someone you are, just understand that I don't hate anyone. And if something I say is striking a chord, you might want to look at yourself and ask why this stinks -- stuff we know to be untrue about ourselves is easy to dismiss, while the stuff with a grain of truth is much harder to flush away.)
I'd like to continue, but to quote David Lee Roth, "I'd like to talk more Philosophy, but I gotta go pee. That Philosophy goes right through ya..."
