Pruning

[nyyki]

I'm doing a little pruning on my friends list. tThis is for people who don't use Live Journal much anymore or who haven't responded to anything I've said in a rather long time. This is only the first round, and more will come in time. As I said in my new year's entry, there will be some reassessment this year, and I'm becoming more selective in who I share my life with, even in a casual way. (I won't be sharing my life in an intimate way with anyone again this lifetime unless something extremely radical happens -- I don't do a good job of such things, and so I'm taking myself out of that game)
Some folks use their friends list as casual aquaintances. Some use it for those who they want to read. Those two uses are better handled over on Facebook, in my opinion. I plan to use this for friends. This also means there's a possibility that I will, for the first time ever, go to a friends only journal.
Also, if anyone knows how to get LJ to remove me from someone else's friends list, I'd be greatly appreciative. I have a couple of folks who have me friended on journals that never really took off, and a couple more that are dead journals that I don't want to encounter anymore on my lists, so I want myself purged from them. In a couple of cases they lost their LJ passwords so they couldn't use their journals, and there are also a couple of cases of people who I no longer have contact information for or whom I won't contact due to interpersonal problems. So finding a way to remove them from my LJ would be nice. If I can't do this I may have to delete my journal instead.

Comments

[dakotawitch.livejournal.com]

I don't know if it's possible to get yourself removed from someone's Flist. How I've handled the issue in the past is to Unfriend them (if that applies), which means they don't see any of my locked entries. Of course, that also means needing to lock anything I don't want them to see, or creating filters -- which can also be a useful way of selectively releasing entries without having to totally Flock everything, or if you have groups of friends that you want to read different things. I wish there were an easy way (or that I knew of one if it existed) to remove yourself from someone's Flist -- I would have used it several times in my LJ life :)

Also, complete nonsequiter, but Dallas Yoga Center now has a Yoga and Sound class that made me think of you -- it seemed like something that would intrigue you given the importance of music and sound to you. Yoga done to crystal singing bowls...*bliss*

[nyyki.livejournal.com]

Yeah, but the only client I've found that is even remotely accessible doesn't let me set status on posts or select groups. I need a more blind accessible client, too.

[cyndtechgoddess.livejournal.com]

The closest way to removing yourself from someone else's friends list is to ban that person from your friends list. Technically, that doesn't remove you from their list, but they don't show up on yours anymore. They quite literally disappear from your "LJ-world". It's a rather extreme move, but it's about the only way to accomplish what you're talking about.

[nyyki.livejournal.com]

How do I ban someone? I'd love to know.

[cyndtechgoddess.livejournal.com]

I get to it by going to my user profile, then clicking on Settings. When I do that, the URL displays as follows:
http://www.livejournal.com/manage/settings/

That takes you to the "My Account Settings" page

From there, select the Privacy tab.

Scroll down the list and you'll find a choice that says "Ban and Unban Users". Click on the hyperlink. This takes you to the "Ban and Unban Users" page.

At the top of the page you'll find a field titled "Ban Users". To ban users, just enter the LJ username in the box. Separate multiple usernames with commas. There is also a "set note" field, but I've never used it. I suppose you can note why you are banning the user and that's what that's for, but it doesn't seem to be required. I didn't have to fill it out when I banned my ex. Come to think of it, I don't remember that field existing....

Anyway, when you're all done, just click on the button that says "Ban users". Voila!

[amyboyd.livejournal.com]

Hey Rick. Anything I can help with here?